Having the right amount of sex is a difficult balance in any relationship and everyone has a different threshold that takes them from too much to not enough.
We’re all different, and finding a partner that has a similar sex drive to yourself feels like finding the holy grail! But when you find someone that matches up with you it’s a wonderful feeling and you just can’t get enough.
But what happens if you don’t find that special someone who matches up with you in life?
Some people don’t, and that’s okay. Some people do find that person but also find that their sex life isn’t so active in the long run.
If you realise that you’ve stopped having sex, you might discover that your body has it’s own reactions to the news. Today we’re going to look at five things that happen to your body when you stop having sex, and you’ll be surprised to find that they’re not all bad!
1. You may struggle with loss of lubrication
Although this side effect is more common in older women, it’s not unusual for it to happen in younger women who aren’t having sex too. This is because of the lack of oestrogen in the body, which can happen if you’re not having sex or aren’t taking care of your sexual urges yourself. Dr. Lauren Streicher explains, “If you take a young woman who’s 20 or 30 years old she’s going to have plenty of oestrogen around to make sure those tissues stay healthy, elastic, and lubricated when she’s not having sex. If you take someone who’s 60 and has no oestrogen, she has lost that piece of it.”
2. You’re less likely to get a UTI
You wouldn’t be surprised to learn that you’re less likely to get an STI when you’re not having sex, but you might be surprised to discover that your dry spell can lessen your chances of getting a UTI. Dr. Streicher says that, “It’s intercourse that’s responsible for potentially increasing the risk of recurrent bladder infections.” This is because sex causes the spread of bacteria which lead to infections, so less sex means less bacteria. Not so bad after all, I guess!
3. You lose your libido
Although some people can’t wait to get back in the sack after they’ve had a dry spell, others might find that going a long time without sex doesn’t mean that they can get in the mood again when a chance comes around. Sari Cooper, a certified sex therapist told Reader’s Digest that, “For some people who refrain from sex, they begin to feel more sluggish, with less vitality and hunger for sex. Out of sight out of mind is how some of my clients describe the scenario.” So if you’re not feeling in the mood after a long time without sex, you could just need some time to get back into the loving feeling.
4. Your period pain may get worse
If you struggle with period pain then I’ve found another reason why you’re going to want to carry on having sex. Although you might not want to have sex during your period, those who do can find that it works wonders for menstrual cramps and those who aren’t having sex can struggle with cramps getting worse. Dr. Lauren Streicher says, “The uterus is a muscle and many women will actually have a uterine contraction when they orgasm, which will cause the blood to expel more quickly, which will in turn decrease menstrual cramps. Also, there may be an increase in endorphins, which also will help with menstrual cramps.”
5. Your vaginal walls may get weaker
If you’re a woman that’s going through menopause then you’re going to be going through a number of symptoms that you would really rather not be experiencing. If you’re not having sex, there’s one more symptom that you’re going to have to deal with and that’s your vaginal walls weakening as they don’t get used. Sari Cooper explains, “Without regular frequency of intercourse as you get older the walls of your vagina thin out and can lead to painful sex when you finally get back into the sack.” Sounds like the best thing for your vagina during the menopause is to have sex, if you can get it!
What do you think of our list of five things that happen to your body when you stop having sex? Have you ever had to deal with any of these symptoms when you’ve been having a dry spell? Does your sex drive cause you any problems in your relationship? Let us know what you think in the comments and don’t forget to share this article with your family and friends!