Even when a relationship is going swimmingly, there are still a number of things which can go wrong. Your girlfriend, for example, might land her dream job out of town, or suffer a devasting loss which makes the relationship impossible at that point in time.
However, there’s one thing which everyone with a significant other dreads – being cheated on. A relationship is an investment, and if your girlfriend doesn’t even have the decency to break up with you before getting it on with someone else, it’s a real insult.
While no one wants to contemplate the possibility that they are being cheated on, it’s better to find out sooner rather than later. So if you suspect that the leading lady in your life could be becoming the leading lady in someone else’s, here are 11 telltale signs that she might be cheating…
1. You’re not a team anymore
One of the best things about being in a relationship is that you’ve got someone by your side whenever life throws a curveball your way and an on-call cheerleader who wants to see you slay. But if you two are no longer working together through life, it could be a sign that your girlfriend is cheating. While independence is a good thing in any relationship, there is a line.
2. She points out ALL of your flaws
Sure, a little constructive criticism never goes amiss, but if you feel like your girlfriend only ever has negative things to say about you, then it’s a surefire sign that something is up. She might be coming down hard on you to justify to herself why she has fallen into someone else’s arms.
3. She tracks your every move
This is a tricky one, but if your girlfriend constantly wants to know where you are, it’s not a good thing. She might be keeping tabs on you so that she can get her lover in and out of her place (or the one you share) before you come home. That or she’s just plain possessive.
4. She’s dismissive
A relationship is a two-way street and you should be able to tell your girlfriend about what’s going on in your life. If she tries to change the subject whenever you try to talk to her and is generally more dismissive than she used to be, she could be cheating.
5. She’s staying late at work
This is a concerning sign for one of two reasons. Your girlfriend could be staying late at work because she doesn’t want to spend time with you now she’s got someone else, or worse, her bit on the side just so happens to work in her office.
6. She’s not opening up to you anymore
Like I’ve said before, if you’re in a relationship, you’re a part of a team and that means you know you’ve got someone to talk to about your problems. So if your girlfriend suddenly decides to stop opening up to you, it could be a sign that she’s opening up to someone else.
7. She’s got a lot of new friends
Is your girlfriend suddenly hanging out with a bunch of new people? And is she prioritizing them over spending time with you? Then these “new friends” could be an excuse for her to cheat without actually having to deal with the inconvenience of breaking up with you.
8. You’re having trouble in the bedroom
If you’re constantly initiating sex, or feel like your girlfriend just isn’t as into it as she used to be, then it’s a red flag that she could be getting her kicks elsewhere. A healthy sex life is an important part of any relationship, and it’s probably one of the biggest signs that all is not well in yours.
9. She gives her phone more attention than you
I could never be with someone who pays more attention to their Facebook timeline than me. When you’re with your girlfriend, she should be getting the majority of your attention. If she is suddenly glued to her phone, she could be looking at more than just memes.
10. She’s got a dramatic makeover
While it’s always nice to see your girlfriend make an effort for you, if she has suddenly changed her look dramatically and she’s doing anything else on this list, it’s not a bad idea to consider the possibility that she’s trying to impress someone else.
11. She’s hiding things
Everyone needs space in a relationship, but if your girlfriend suddenly freaks out whenever you go near her phone or laptop, then she definitely has something to hide and it’s probably not a romantic getaway for your anniversary.
A good relationship is built on trust. While we’d all like to trust our girlfriends absolutely, subtle changes in her behavior really can say a lot. Confronting your girlfriend about cheating on you isn’t easy, but it’s better than being foolish enough to turn a blind eye.