We’re all humans. We all experience pain from time to time. Sometimes it comes when you really just don’t need it to. Specifically, I’m talking about the kinda pain experienced during intimacy. Ladies, if you experience pain during this moment….you are not alone.
The 2009 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behaviour has noted that about 30% of women have felt pain during their last sexual encounter. But even though this feeling is fairly common, doesn’t mean that it is okay. There are a few reasons as to why this might be happening.
Check out these 8 reasons why you might be feeling pain during intercourse. Some of them you might think are fairly obvious, while others might be completely surprised. Regardless, it’s good to get to the bottom of the problem so both you and your partner can be happy.
1. Vaginismus. According to WebMD, Vaginismus happens when the muscles in that area are squeezed or spasmed during intercourse. It can also happen when using a tampon. Regardless, it can get pretty painful when that happens.
2. Skipping roleplay. Another reason as to why it may hurt during sex could be because you are skipping the role play and getting right to it. Ourbodiesourselves.org notes that women need the proper stimuli in order to make the whole process go…smoother. That means communicating with your partner and letting them know what works for you. That’ll help control the pain real quick.
3. Vaginal infections. NHS.uk points the reasoning to vaginal infections. Various issues like monilia (a yeast infection) or trichomoniasis can be the cause why it might hurt during sexual intercourse. It can cause women to feel a stinging sensation or itchiness. If you think this might be one of the reasons, you should go see a doctor as soon as possible.
4. Endometriosis. This condition is defined as “often painful disorder in which tissue that normally lines the inside of your uterus grows outside your uterus” (mayoclinic.org). The disorder typically involves your ovaries, fallopian tubes and the tissue lining your pelvis. It gives women a really painful feeling during sex and seeing a doctor is pretty crucial.
5. Vulvodynia. According to WebMD, is a chronic vulvar pain that has no cause. In fact, it’s only until recently that doctors recognized it as being a real pain syndrome. The site notes that researchers are currently working fairly hard to understand what the causes are of this and to find ways to treat it. Again, ladies, you are not alone.
6. Tight Squeeze. Healthline.com also bring in the reason of ‘tight squeeze’. The site notes that the size and shape differences between two people’s genitalia can be the main cause of pain. There’s not much that a doctor can do in this situation other than using the help of lube and foreplay. Eventually, it becomes more tolerable and you and your partner can get past this.
7. Stress and Anxiety. Having stress and anxiety in your life can lead to a painful sexual experience. Alternate.org notes that when you are stressed you tend to clench…unknowingly. That clenching actually leads to cramping. This then becomes a continuous cycle that starts in the mind and eventually finds itself down into the body. This is something you can fix by easing the stress in your life.
8. Not enough lubrication. Lubrication can help prevent a painful sexual experience. If you are having intercourse with your partner and it gets pretty painful, that might just mean that you are lacking the assistance of lube. According to WebMD, using lubrication can really ease pain and make bother couples pretty content!