IF YOU’RE suffering from premature ejaculation, or just want to go for longer, follow these four easy steps for better sex.
When it comes to the length of a sex session, most women don’t want it to last as long as you think.
In a recent study, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, researchers found women wanted sex to last between seven and 13 minutes – it’s worth noting this means the act of intercourse itself and does not include foreplay.
Scientists also found that one to two minutes of sex was too short for women, three to seven minutes was “adequate” and 10 to 30 minutes was deemed too long.
The average man can have sex for around five minutes before ejaculating, falling just outside of the “desirable zone”.
Yet, men who suffer from premature ejaculation struggle to last even a minute – something that can lead to low self-esteem.
While there are certain techniques and medications men can take to help with premature ejaculation, here are four steps to take if you want to cure penis problems the natural way.
1. Take a breath
A man can focus on his breathing by lying on his back, with his knees bent and feet flat on the ground. With one hand on his stomach and the other on his heart, he should take deep breaths.
This will allow him to find the rhythm of his breath while making him feel calm.
Kumi Sawyers, an instructor at Sky Ting Yoga in New York, told Cosmopolitan: “If you begin to work with your breath, just like you would in a yoga class, or if you’re running or doing anything physical where you coordinate your breath and your movement, all of a sudden you create a rhythm.”
This rhythm will prevent the man from feeling anxious and tense during sex. It will also allow his muscles to relax, which can increase stamina in the bedroom.
2. Start to find the rhythm
Next, the man should sit on the ground with his legs crossed, sort of like he’s meditating. Then he should rock his pelvis back and forth in time with his breath.
Kumi added: “That’s really good for getting dormant sexual energy that he’s storing in his pelvis.”
3. Change the motion
After performing the rocking motion, the man should switch to making circular motions with the top half of his body.
Kumi said: “Circular, spherical energy is really the energy you want to look for.
“If anything is too linear, it becomes rigid.
“He wants to really be able to move all the joints with this circular energy throughout the body.”
4. Take it to the bedroom
Now all the pre-sex breathing work is done, he can apply it to the bedroom, beginning with foreplay.
As things heat up, the man just needs to tune in to his breathing – which has already been established in the steps above – and this allows him to control his orgasm.
Kumi added: “It’s like you’re going fast in a car and you need to make a left turn.
“You have to slow down to make that turn.
“If he’s getting to the point where he feels like he’s getting ready to climax, and he doesn’t want to, he can slow his breath down and stop moving so quickly so the rhythm slows again.
“His body has a moment to recalibrate and it gives him more time to go back in and start going back to climax.”